Saturday, October 31, 2009

Top Reasons Why Moms-To-Be Should Be a Fulltime Mom

I am a full time working mom. I chose to work and let my hubby stay at home as a "house-band" due to some personal reasons. I enjoy working and mothering as much as a full-time mother feels being with her baby all day.

It is fun.

And depressing at the same time.

Sometimes, I regret being in the office instead of me at home looking after my little boy. After joining different forums, reading articles and following blogs about mothering, I realized nothing can ever compare the joy of watching your own child grow day by day--not even the joy of bringing home the amount of money twice an average employee is getting can suffice a parent's time with her kid.Mothering, as described by Mildred B. Vermont, is one of the highest salaried jobs... since the payment is pure love ( I saw this quotation from one of my favorite blogs: and fell in love with it!)

I dedicate this post to all Moms-to-be, full time moms and full time working moms.

Here are the reasons why you should opt to be a FULL TIME MOM:

You can watch your baby sleep.

Witness your child's first smile.

You can give him bath.

Quality hugging time.

Catch candid moments.

Take a picture of the very first tooth to ever appear on his gum

And you will not be worried that:

  • your baby is not eating the right food.
  • and even if he is not eating that much of solid food, as long as you're breastfeeding him exclusively, rest assured baby will be ok.
  • baby missed scheduled vaccinations or check-up with the pedia.
  • he's not getting enough sleep.
  • not having fun.
  • he'll cling/depend on to other person
  • he may not recognize you as his mom--which is our worst nightmare.

I've been going through all of this. It is depressing, yes. But I've been trying to make the best out of my free time playing with my Tri and teaching him stuffs. I know, someday, I'll be strong enough to consider resignation. Someday, I'll be Tri's full time mom.

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Yehey! :)

Tri has been PACIFIER-FREE for a week now.
Yeah! I was really, really worried that my baby might get use to sucking on the pacifier for two or three years or something. I am just so happy I wanna share my excitement! This is one of the best development I saw from my baby for the past months. Well, except for cute gestures and all...this is going to be great!

Sunday, October 25, 2009

Nobody's Perfect

I came across this article from about the hands on Dads. One article struck me like a cold spear piercing my chest. Just want to share the article:

My partner criticises everything I do with our new baby. I feel fed up and useless. How can I get her to back off a little?

Written for BabyCentre UK

Christine Northam answers:

It sounds as if you really want to be involved with your new baby -- I wonder if your partner understands that you want to help? Maybe you could tell her that you'd appreciate some positive guidance when it comes to dealing with the baby, because it appears that you're not getting it right and you're feeling a bit demoralised. This may surprise her and give her an opportunity to recognise what's happening.

When we're learning a new job (which is what happens when we become parents) we need support to become confident with our new responsibilities. Having a baby is a lot more than just having a new job though, because it involves our emotional life, too. In this respect it can be even more demanding.

Both of you are going through a period of major adjustment -- sometimes new mothers feel so overwhelmed that they become negative and tearful (the so-called baby blues). She may be treating you in this way because she is feeling uncertain about her own mothering capabilities and needs reassurance herself. She might not yet have the confidence to help you learn. Meanwhile, you may be feeling vulnerable as you adjust to this huge change in your life and could be more sensitive to criticism than is normal for you.

Hang on to your confidence and to your love for your partner and baby. Use your feelings as a cue to talk with her and find ways to work together to make this a good experience for you all. If you really think this is not going to happen, counselling can help.

Ok, ok. I admit it. I am guilty of this one. Big time.

We, mothers, tend to be perfectionists. (well, aside from the fact that I might have inherited my Dad's perfectionist view). If it is for my son, I want it to be in proper order, systematic, on time, the right amount, squeaky clean, organized and accordingly.

Call it OC, I know.

Since me and hubby have both decided I'll keep my job and he'll be left at home with Tri as a "house-band", I know that I have to hand him down all the responsibilities and rights of being a mother. i told him that it's just okay with me and that things will run smoothly. I was wrong. I lied when I said it is ok. It was never ok for me to leave my baby alone with him. Considering the fact that he is a first time Dad and we opted not to ask assistance from our relatives (unless the situation calls for a BIG help). At work, I'll text him a maximum of a hundred text a day to make sure that everything is in order. He'll answer YES, only for me to find out from his relative that he bathe Tri with tap water (without putting on baby oil) or Tri bumped his head on the wall or that he did not feed him with cerelac blah, blah, blah.

Did I say I want things in order?

And we all know that working, commuting an hour and a half everyday, mothering and being a wife is too much to handle when done all at the same time. Knowing that my son may be in danger when I'm at work because he is not doing what I want him to do makes my blood pressure go up to the max! I have started a countless arguments about his way of parenting, how dissatisfied I am and how I wanted our son to grow up much different from how he was raised.

Yes. I am mean...and harsh. I didn't realize how painful it is for him to swallow his pride and let me be "the man" of the house, let him be my shock absorber when I am too stressed from work and let him do all the unmanly chores and be the center of his colleagues' jokes. I wasn't thinking about that. I was too busy thinking of being a good mother, bringing home just enough money to make my family survive. I was too busy nagging him to be a perfect father to our son and shaping him to be a good man so his family members would think he picked just 'the right girl", because I've made him like that.

It is only today, just today, I felt his pain. And after reading the article from babycenter, I wanna rush home to feel his warm embrace.

Hope this serves as a lesson to anyone reading this blog that nothing in this world is perfect, so we don't have to force ourselves to do the right things.

Saturday, October 24, 2009

17 months and still counting

Happy 17th Month Birthday Tri!
Sorry, Mommy wasn't able to post it yesterday, hehehe :)
We love you so much!
-from Mommy and Daddy

Thursday, October 22, 2009


After a week of exhausting Tri's I-can't-eat-mommy-drama, it's all over! I saw three pearly whites on my baby's gum. There's two backmolars on his upper gum and one of the side incisors on the lower gum!

I can't get a good shot of the new ones, maybe next time! Although, as I have posted before, Tri's teeth came out crooked or by any chance got affected by his pacifier. I don't really care, I'm so excited that we got him a new set of baby toothbrush from the mall!

Can't wait for the next ones to come out! :)

Friday, October 9, 2009

At work, you think of the children you have left at home. At home, you think of the work you've left unfinished. Such a struggle is unleashed within yourself. Your heart is rent.

-Golda Meir

life is not a tv show

I have been a very big fan of the show Jon and Kate Plus 8 since the day it aired on the Discovery Channel's Travel and Living. I love the show. It is really what I call a reality TV show. I specifically admire Kate--not because she is perfect. We know she isn't. But because I couldn't think being in her place.

It was April of this year that Jon was said to be cheating and seeing a third grade teacher while his wife is on tour promoting her new book (and their 8 children alone with the nanny). It was reported that Jon was seen with her at 2:00am in a local lounge, pictures were taken with her sunbathing on the Gosselin's lawn and the girl's relatives finally telling their side admitting that Jon use to come over at their place and the two will lock themselves like teenagers.

Married couples do have the ups and downs. But this, for Jon and Kate seems to be the final test. After the April incident, stories are starting to pour. It was also reported that while Jon is seeing a much younger girl, Kate is also busy with their bodyguard. Kate denied the allegations, while Jon neither admit nor refuse to share his side of story. Finally, when one of them decided to use the media as an instrument (perhaps to get sympathy from viewers), things went messy. "Dirty" accusations were exchanged. Money and properties got involved. Stashing from their accounts, spending the family fund for shopping, influencing the kids to get rid of the show, breach of contract and all those countless allegations were spread through media. It became a he-said-she-said case now.
It may be hard for both of them, but I believe that the kids are suffering much more than they know. My heart goes to the eight little angels. They do not deserve this kind of family. They do not deserve growing up knowing that the world isn't a TV show that you can call "cut" or "curtain" anytime.

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Handy Manny


My boy is just so crazy about this one

Let's get going and fix it right

Twist & turn, make it tight

Trabajamos juntos, we work together now

Cut it measure it, tap it flat

Bend and twist, just like that

Each of us have a special job

We work together, todos juntos

We can fix it right!

Thanks to his grandpa, he got his own tools to play:

well, he threw the hammer somewhere...and the screwdriver and I still can't find the wrench.

Ice Cream!!!!!!!!!!

Tri got a sore gum. It's been bugging him for the past 2 days. A new tooth is coming out. Jan thought he needs something cold to nibble. So, he got him:

ice cream?

smells like ice cream...

hmm...kinda taste like one

sure does...

waaaaaah!!!!!! more!!!!!

Friday, October 2, 2009

Prayer For The Little Ones

Dear Lord,

The past few days have been very alarming. So sudden. Heart breaking scenes. I did not feel much of the impact of the rain and flood since I got stuck inside our office doing my Saturday shift. I thought I was lucky that I didn't have to face the deadly Ondoy. It broke my heart watching the videos captured by media men. An entire family being carried away by the raging water to the river but get separated when they reached the bridge when they were supposed to be rescued. What's sad about that is that there are two helpless children involved. One 6 years old and one 3 years who is just about to have her birthday. So devastating. The aftermath is much worse. I can't go into details. I just can't help but cry. I could not imagine that happening to us. Not to my little brother, not to my own son. I beg you, Papa Jesus, please don't let the little ones suffer more. Please help the others ease the pain from the previous storm. Please give them strength to carry on. The little ones do not deserve this, if this is a part of the consequences that grown ups need to face. have mercy on the little ones Papa Jesus...

Here Comes Pepeng

As of 11 AM MLA time, PAGASA said that Pepeng is forecast to bring more rains and very strong winds in the Northern part of Luzon, including Metro Manila by tomorrow mid-day or the afternoon, once it makes landfall.

This news, if not scary, is very alarming. Last Saturday, Manila was struck by Ondoy carrying heavy rains resulting to flood that took almost 400 lives (and still counting), injured many, left families without homes, children without a place to study, limited food and water and illnesses that needs immediate attention. Just this week, an earthquake shook Samoa and nearby islands, followed by a tsunami and another earthquake.

Many have said that the end is near.

But I hope not.

Let us all pray for the loved ones we lost during the typhoon Ondoy and for our safety now that Pepeng is on it's way.

Hold on.

God will make a way
Where there seems to be no way
He works in ways we cannot see
He will make a way for me
He will be my guide
Hold me closely to His side
With love and strength
For each new day
He will make a way
He will make a way
By a roadway in the wilderness
He'll lead me
And rivers in the desert will I see
Heaven and earth will fade
But His Word will still remain
He will do something new today
By Don Moen